How to Get a Mother's Wounds Healed

Edwardson

1. Untangle Society's Implicit Information to Mothers

 

For wound healing, it is vital to untangle the subtle, overt, and unspoken messages concerning motherhood and mothers. On the inside, this reflection leads to a conflict with the notions of femininity, sovereignty, and womanhood. Some of society's unspoken signals to moms are as follows to click here:

 

It is entirely your responsibility if parenting is difficult for you.

You should feel ashamed of yourself if you aren't superhuman.

Some "natural mothers" come naturally to motherhood. If you aren't one of these folks, something is wrong with you.

You're supposed to have it all: well-behaved children, sexual appeal, a wonderful profession, and a solid marriage.

 

2. Recognize the Functions of Sacrifice and Passion

 

It may seem like rejection for women who have done so much to have kids in our culture when their child accomplishes or surpasses the objectives you thought were reachable for yourself. However, a subtle yet powerful manipulation might be a feeling of owing, entitled to, or demanding affirmation from your children. This dynamic may cause future generations of girls to shrink for their mothers to feel validated and reinforced in their position as mothers, a job for which many have given so much and received so little in return.

 

And for a kid who relies on her mother, sacrificing herself to alleviate her mother's illness is often a subconscious choice made early in life that is not acknowledged as the root of underlying troubles until she is an adult.

 

The Mother Wound develops because mothers don't have a safe place to express their concerns about society's sacrifices. And because females are still afraid of being rejected if they do not make the same sacrifices as their forebears.